Childhood Friendships Crucial in Learning to Value Others
Loyola Pediatric Psychiatrist Talks about Friendship and Social Development
Source Newsroom: Loyola University Health System
Newswise — MAYWOOD, Ill. – (July 24, 2014) Friends play an extremely important role in a person’s life. From infancy on, we have a desire to connect and those early relationships help to mold and develop our adult character. Through interactions with one another, we learn to think beyond ourselves to understand the needs and desires of others.
“As human beings, we are social creatures at every developmental stage, from infancy to adulthood. Each stage has different goals to be achieved and mastered, with respect to social and moral development, and each is important towards contributing to how well one functions as an adult,” said Dr. Theodote K. Pontikes, child and adolescent psychiatrist at Loyola University Health System and assistant professor in the departments of Psychiatry and Behavioral Neurosciences and Pediatrics at Loyola University Chicago Stritch School of Medicine.
Companionship and learning about others begins in infancy through early interactions with parents, other primary caregivers and family members. As a child grows and explores the world outside the home and interacts with peers, he or she begins to understand social mores.
“By interacting with their peers, children begin to learn about perspective-taking, where they can realize how others may have different thoughts and feelings. This process facilitates learning to problem-solve and to develop critical thinking skills, while practicing how to respond respectfully in the context of disagreements when interpersonal tensions arise. These are situations one encounters throughout life, and children need a strong grounding to know how to respond,” Pontikes said.
According to Pontikes, parents can help their children by holding supervised play dates and modeling healthy friendships with the parents of their children’s friends. In addition to stimulation, these early friendships provide children with a better understanding of companionship, social comparison, time management, affection and
“Family gatherings, school and houses of worship are great places to provide early opportunities for kids to learn how to interact with others and to form friendships. As children grow older, participating in a sport or extracurricular activity can help the child build additional social skills that can further enhance self-esteem,” Pontikes said.
As important as friendships are to children, it’s even more important for parents to remain involved in their kids’ lives.
“Parents need to ask their children about their day, their experiences and their feelings. Children need to feel safe that they can be open and honest with their parents about their joys, struggles and concerns,” Pontikes said. “When a child seems isolative and doesn’t express an interest in being with others, it can be beneficial to consult a specialist to rule out depression and other conditions. This also provides children and parents the opportunity to find appropriate guidance, so as to optimize a child’s potential.”
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