From keeping the peace among family members at the Thanksgiving table to navigating the politics of a potluck dinner to delegating for a more joyful holiday, Wake Forest University Professor of Counseling Samuel Gladding can offer advice for a less stressful Turkey Day.
“Season with a sense of humor,” is Gladding’s most important tip. He is an expert on family counseling and has written several books on the topic, including "Family Therapy.”
He suggests:• When families gather, it is the perfect time to call a truce. Tell yourself, no matter what someone says, you’re not going to react. It’s okay to take unilateral action for a harmonious gathering.• Think about tasks you would like help with (go ahead, make a list) and those you don’t (you always hate it when non-cooks try to help while you’re cooking). Then ask — before the event. • Have realistic expectations — The more you idealize the holidays, the more frustrated, disappointed and unhappy you are likely to be with yourself and others if things aren't perfect.• Accept people for who they are — Unless they are doing something totally unacceptable, it's better to enjoy people for who they are instead of who you want them to be.• Tell stories — Talking about good times and good memories is inspiring and helps form connections.
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